\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n

Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n

Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n

Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n

Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n

Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n

Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n

Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n

Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n

Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n

Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n

Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


\n\n\n\n

Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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<\/gwmw><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: That's right. That person doesn't criticize me to my face out of consideration for me. Therefore, by talking about me behind my back, he is being very considerate. That's why there is no reason to be upset by it. (audience laughter). So, instead of thinking how can my friend be talking behind my back, think positively that because that person is my friend, he is talking behind my back and not to my face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q<\/strong>: It's worse to criticize you to your face. It's not our culture to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: That's right. That person doesn't criticize me to my face out of consideration for me. Therefore, by talking about me behind my back, he is being very considerate. That's why there is no reason to be upset by it. (audience laughter). So, instead of thinking how can my friend be talking behind my back, think positively that because that person is my friend, he is talking behind my back and not to my face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Which one is better? Is it better for people to criticize me to my face? Or is it better that people criticize me only among themselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's worse to criticize you to your face. It's not our culture to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: That's right. That person doesn't criticize me to my face out of consideration for me. Therefore, by talking about me behind my back, he is being very considerate. That's why there is no reason to be upset by it. (audience laughter). So, instead of thinking how can my friend be talking behind my back, think positively that because that person is my friend, he is talking behind my back and not to my face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: Right now I\u2019m imparting helpful wisdom, but will everyone here like it? Some people will really like it, and others will not. Those people who didn't like my talk could say to my face, \u201cI\u2019m upset, why did you say those things?\u201d Or they could complain to their friends on the drive back home, \u201cHis talk was boring. It wasn't anything special.\u201d (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which one is better? Is it better for people to criticize me to my face? Or is it better that people criticize me only among themselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's worse to criticize you to your face. It's not our culture to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: That's right. That person doesn't criticize me to my face out of consideration for me. Therefore, by talking about me behind my back, he is being very considerate. That's why there is no reason to be upset by it. (audience laughter). So, instead of thinking how can my friend be talking behind my back, think positively that because that person is my friend, he is talking behind my back and not to my face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q<\/strong>: When I realize that people are dishonest, and they pretend to be my friends but are not actually my friends, I get hurt. Even though I've done many good things for other people, bad things happen to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Right now I\u2019m imparting helpful wisdom, but will everyone here like it? Some people will really like it, and others will not. Those people who didn't like my talk could say to my face, \u201cI\u2019m upset, why did you say those things?\u201d Or they could complain to their friends on the drive back home, \u201cHis talk was boring. It wasn't anything special.\u201d (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which one is better? Is it better for people to criticize me to my face? Or is it better that people criticize me only among themselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's worse to criticize you to your face. It's not our culture to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: That's right. That person doesn't criticize me to my face out of consideration for me. Therefore, by talking about me behind my back, he is being very considerate. That's why there is no reason to be upset by it. (audience laughter). So, instead of thinking how can my friend be talking behind my back, think positively that because that person is my friend, he is talking behind my back and not to my face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: Then what bothers you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: When I realize that people are dishonest, and they pretend to be my friends but are not actually my friends, I get hurt. Even though I've done many good things for other people, bad things happen to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Right now I\u2019m imparting helpful wisdom, but will everyone here like it? Some people will really like it, and others will not. Those people who didn't like my talk could say to my face, \u201cI\u2019m upset, why did you say those things?\u201d Or they could complain to their friends on the drive back home, \u201cHis talk was boring. It wasn't anything special.\u201d (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which one is better? Is it better for people to criticize me to my face? Or is it better that people criticize me only among themselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's worse to criticize you to your face. It's not our culture to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: That's right. That person doesn't criticize me to my face out of consideration for me. Therefore, by talking about me behind my back, he is being very considerate. That's why there is no reason to be upset by it. (audience laughter). So, instead of thinking how can my friend be talking behind my back, think positively that because that person is my friend, he is talking behind my back and not to my face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q<\/strong>: No, it's fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Then what bothers you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: When I realize that people are dishonest, and they pretend to be my friends but are not actually my friends, I get hurt. Even though I've done many good things for other people, bad things happen to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Right now I\u2019m imparting helpful wisdom, but will everyone here like it? Some people will really like it, and others will not. Those people who didn't like my talk could say to my face, \u201cI\u2019m upset, why did you say those things?\u201d Or they could complain to their friends on the drive back home, \u201cHis talk was boring. It wasn't anything special.\u201d (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which one is better? Is it better for people to criticize me to my face? Or is it better that people criticize me only among themselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's worse to criticize you to your face. It's not our culture to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: That's right. That person doesn't criticize me to my face out of consideration for me. Therefore, by talking about me behind my back, he is being very considerate. That's why there is no reason to be upset by it. (audience laughter). So, instead of thinking how can my friend be talking behind my back, think positively that because that person is my friend, he is talking behind my back and not to my face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: You feel hurt because you\u2019re thinking how can this person criticize me when I've complimented him. If you think, \u201cHe could criticize me\u201d you will not be hurt. Do you dislike being criticized?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: No, it's fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Then what bothers you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: When I realize that people are dishonest, and they pretend to be my friends but are not actually my friends, I get hurt. Even though I've done many good things for other people, bad things happen to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Right now I\u2019m imparting helpful wisdom, but will everyone here like it? Some people will really like it, and others will not. Those people who didn't like my talk could say to my face, \u201cI\u2019m upset, why did you say those things?\u201d Or they could complain to their friends on the drive back home, \u201cHis talk was boring. It wasn't anything special.\u201d (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which one is better? Is it better for people to criticize me to my face? Or is it better that people criticize me only among themselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's worse to criticize you to your face. It's not our culture to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: That's right. That person doesn't criticize me to my face out of consideration for me. Therefore, by talking about me behind my back, he is being very considerate. That's why there is no reason to be upset by it. (audience laughter). So, instead of thinking how can my friend be talking behind my back, think positively that because that person is my friend, he is talking behind my back and not to my face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q<\/strong>: I\u2019ve been hurt many times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You feel hurt because you\u2019re thinking how can this person criticize me when I've complimented him. If you think, \u201cHe could criticize me\u201d you will not be hurt. Do you dislike being criticized?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: No, it's fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Then what bothers you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: When I realize that people are dishonest, and they pretend to be my friends but are not actually my friends, I get hurt. Even though I've done many good things for other people, bad things happen to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Right now I\u2019m imparting helpful wisdom, but will everyone here like it? Some people will really like it, and others will not. Those people who didn't like my talk could say to my face, \u201cI\u2019m upset, why did you say those things?\u201d Or they could complain to their friends on the drive back home, \u201cHis talk was boring. It wasn't anything special.\u201d (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which one is better? Is it better for people to criticize me to my face? Or is it better that people criticize me only among themselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's worse to criticize you to your face. It's not our culture to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: That's right. That person doesn't criticize me to my face out of consideration for me. Therefore, by talking about me behind my back, he is being very considerate. That's why there is no reason to be upset by it. (audience laughter). So, instead of thinking how can my friend be talking behind my back, think positively that because that person is my friend, he is talking behind my back and not to my face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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For example, let's say I complimented someone, but the person will not necessarily compliment me in return and might even criticize me. Is the person then at fault? No, it's a natural phenomenon. The chances of a person complimenting me is a little higher when I compliment that person as opposed to criticizing him. That's why it's more advantageous for me to compliment the person. Listening to you, you seem to be wondering, \u201cWhy did that person criticize me when I have complimented him.\u201d But it's a natural phenomenon. I complimented that person because I wanted to, and he criticized me because he wanted to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I\u2019ve been hurt many times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You feel hurt because you\u2019re thinking how can this person criticize me when I've complimented him. If you think, \u201cHe could criticize me\u201d you will not be hurt. Do you dislike being criticized?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: No, it's fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Then what bothers you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: When I realize that people are dishonest, and they pretend to be my friends but are not actually my friends, I get hurt. Even though I've done many good things for other people, bad things happen to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Right now I\u2019m imparting helpful wisdom, but will everyone here like it? Some people will really like it, and others will not. Those people who didn't like my talk could say to my face, \u201cI\u2019m upset, why did you say those things?\u201d Or they could complain to their friends on the drive back home, \u201cHis talk was boring. It wasn't anything special.\u201d (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which one is better? Is it better for people to criticize me to my face? Or is it better that people criticize me only among themselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's worse to criticize you to your face. It's not our culture to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: That's right. That person doesn't criticize me to my face out of consideration for me. Therefore, by talking about me behind my back, he is being very considerate. That's why there is no reason to be upset by it. (audience laughter). So, instead of thinking how can my friend be talking behind my back, think positively that because that person is my friend, he is talking behind my back and not to my face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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There are two reasons we have to do good deeds. First, when we do good deeds, there is a higher probability that the results will be better than when we do bad deeds. That\u2019s why we choose the option that is more likely to produce good results. Second, when we do good deeds, we feel good. Therefore, it's better to do good deeds regardless of the outcome. Thinking that when we do good deeds the results will also be good is an incorrect and mechanical way of thinking, leading to the question why bad things happen to us when we have done good deeds. Nice people usually suffer because of this question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let's say I complimented someone, but the person will not necessarily compliment me in return and might even criticize me. Is the person then at fault? No, it's a natural phenomenon. The chances of a person complimenting me is a little higher when I compliment that person as opposed to criticizing him. That's why it's more advantageous for me to compliment the person. Listening to you, you seem to be wondering, \u201cWhy did that person criticize me when I have complimented him.\u201d But it's a natural phenomenon. I complimented that person because I wanted to, and he criticized me because he wanted to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I\u2019ve been hurt many times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You feel hurt because you\u2019re thinking how can this person criticize me when I've complimented him. If you think, \u201cHe could criticize me\u201d you will not be hurt. Do you dislike being criticized?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: No, it's fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Then what bothers you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: When I realize that people are dishonest, and they pretend to be my friends but are not actually my friends, I get hurt. Even though I've done many good things for other people, bad things happen to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Right now I\u2019m imparting helpful wisdom, but will everyone here like it? Some people will really like it, and others will not. Those people who didn't like my talk could say to my face, \u201cI\u2019m upset, why did you say those things?\u201d Or they could complain to their friends on the drive back home, \u201cHis talk was boring. It wasn't anything special.\u201d (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which one is better? Is it better for people to criticize me to my face? Or is it better that people criticize me only among themselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's worse to criticize you to your face. It's not our culture to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: That's right. That person doesn't criticize me to my face out of consideration for me. Therefore, by talking about me behind my back, he is being very considerate. That's why there is no reason to be upset by it. (audience laughter). So, instead of thinking how can my friend be talking behind my back, think positively that because that person is my friend, he is talking behind my back and not to my face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: Good intentions and good outcomes don\u2019t always have a direct correlation. Good deeds done with good intentions does not necessarily guarantee good outcomes. If one believes that there is a direct correlation between the two, he will be greatly disappointed because it\u2019s not true. Then one might ask, \u201cDoes it mean that we don\u2019t need to do good deeds?\u201d No, it's better to do good deeds than not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are two reasons we have to do good deeds. First, when we do good deeds, there is a higher probability that the results will be better than when we do bad deeds. That\u2019s why we choose the option that is more likely to produce good results. Second, when we do good deeds, we feel good. Therefore, it's better to do good deeds regardless of the outcome. Thinking that when we do good deeds the results will also be good is an incorrect and mechanical way of thinking, leading to the question why bad things happen to us when we have done good deeds. Nice people usually suffer because of this question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let's say I complimented someone, but the person will not necessarily compliment me in return and might even criticize me. Is the person then at fault? No, it's a natural phenomenon. The chances of a person complimenting me is a little higher when I compliment that person as opposed to criticizing him. That's why it's more advantageous for me to compliment the person. Listening to you, you seem to be wondering, \u201cWhy did that person criticize me when I have complimented him.\u201d But it's a natural phenomenon. I complimented that person because I wanted to, and he criticized me because he wanted to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I\u2019ve been hurt many times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You feel hurt because you\u2019re thinking how can this person criticize me when I've complimented him. If you think, \u201cHe could criticize me\u201d you will not be hurt. Do you dislike being criticized?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: No, it's fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Then what bothers you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: When I realize that people are dishonest, and they pretend to be my friends but are not actually my friends, I get hurt. Even though I've done many good things for other people, bad things happen to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Right now I\u2019m imparting helpful wisdom, but will everyone here like it? Some people will really like it, and others will not. Those people who didn't like my talk could say to my face, \u201cI\u2019m upset, why did you say those things?\u201d Or they could complain to their friends on the drive back home, \u201cHis talk was boring. It wasn't anything special.\u201d (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which one is better? Is it better for people to criticize me to my face? Or is it better that people criticize me only among themselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's worse to criticize you to your face. It's not our culture to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: That's right. That person doesn't criticize me to my face out of consideration for me. Therefore, by talking about me behind my back, he is being very considerate. That's why there is no reason to be upset by it. (audience laughter). So, instead of thinking how can my friend be talking behind my back, think positively that because that person is my friend, he is talking behind my back and not to my face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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Q<\/strong>: Bad things happen to good people. I can\u2019t seem to get past the bad things that others have done to me. How do I let these actions go and find peace?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Good intentions and good outcomes don\u2019t always have a direct correlation. Good deeds done with good intentions does not necessarily guarantee good outcomes. If one believes that there is a direct correlation between the two, he will be greatly disappointed because it\u2019s not true. Then one might ask, \u201cDoes it mean that we don\u2019t need to do good deeds?\u201d No, it's better to do good deeds than not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are two reasons we have to do good deeds. First, when we do good deeds, there is a higher probability that the results will be better than when we do bad deeds. That\u2019s why we choose the option that is more likely to produce good results. Second, when we do good deeds, we feel good. Therefore, it's better to do good deeds regardless of the outcome. Thinking that when we do good deeds the results will also be good is an incorrect and mechanical way of thinking, leading to the question why bad things happen to us when we have done good deeds. Nice people usually suffer because of this question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let's say I complimented someone, but the person will not necessarily compliment me in return and might even criticize me. Is the person then at fault? No, it's a natural phenomenon. The chances of a person complimenting me is a little higher when I compliment that person as opposed to criticizing him. That's why it's more advantageous for me to compliment the person. Listening to you, you seem to be wondering, \u201cWhy did that person criticize me when I have complimented him.\u201d But it's a natural phenomenon. I complimented that person because I wanted to, and he criticized me because he wanted to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I\u2019ve been hurt many times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You feel hurt because you\u2019re thinking how can this person criticize me when I've complimented him. If you think, \u201cHe could criticize me\u201d you will not be hurt. Do you dislike being criticized?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: No, it's fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Then what bothers you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: When I realize that people are dishonest, and they pretend to be my friends but are not actually my friends, I get hurt. Even though I've done many good things for other people, bad things happen to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Right now I\u2019m imparting helpful wisdom, but will everyone here like it? Some people will really like it, and others will not. Those people who didn't like my talk could say to my face, \u201cI\u2019m upset, why did you say those things?\u201d Or they could complain to their friends on the drive back home, \u201cHis talk was boring. It wasn't anything special.\u201d (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which one is better? Is it better for people to criticize me to my face? Or is it better that people criticize me only among themselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's worse to criticize you to your face. It's not our culture to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: That's right. That person doesn't criticize me to my face out of consideration for me. Therefore, by talking about me behind my back, he is being very considerate. That's why there is no reason to be upset by it. (audience laughter). So, instead of thinking how can my friend be talking behind my back, think positively that because that person is my friend, he is talking behind my back and not to my face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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P<\/strong>: \u201cHello, I'm Pomnyun and next to me is Jason Lim who will interpret the talk. Let\u2019s welcome him with a round of applause. I'd like to thank everyone who made this talk possible today, especially Sehee Kim and her family. We're here to converse freely on any topic. It's not about religion, philosophy or beliefs but to talk about the problems in your lives. I would like to talk about any worries you may have or anything you may be curious about. Let's begin.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Bad things happen to good people. I can\u2019t seem to get past the bad things that others have done to me. How do I let these actions go and find peace?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Good intentions and good outcomes don\u2019t always have a direct correlation. Good deeds done with good intentions does not necessarily guarantee good outcomes. If one believes that there is a direct correlation between the two, he will be greatly disappointed because it\u2019s not true. Then one might ask, \u201cDoes it mean that we don\u2019t need to do good deeds?\u201d No, it's better to do good deeds than not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are two reasons we have to do good deeds. First, when we do good deeds, there is a higher probability that the results will be better than when we do bad deeds. That\u2019s why we choose the option that is more likely to produce good results. Second, when we do good deeds, we feel good. Therefore, it's better to do good deeds regardless of the outcome. Thinking that when we do good deeds the results will also be good is an incorrect and mechanical way of thinking, leading to the question why bad things happen to us when we have done good deeds. Nice people usually suffer because of this question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let's say I complimented someone, but the person will not necessarily compliment me in return and might even criticize me. Is the person then at fault? No, it's a natural phenomenon. The chances of a person complimenting me is a little higher when I compliment that person as opposed to criticizing him. That's why it's more advantageous for me to compliment the person. Listening to you, you seem to be wondering, \u201cWhy did that person criticize me when I have complimented him.\u201d But it's a natural phenomenon. I complimented that person because I wanted to, and he criticized me because he wanted to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I\u2019ve been hurt many times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You feel hurt because you\u2019re thinking how can this person criticize me when I've complimented him. If you think, \u201cHe could criticize me\u201d you will not be hurt. Do you dislike being criticized?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: No, it's fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Then what bothers you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: When I realize that people are dishonest, and they pretend to be my friends but are not actually my friends, I get hurt. Even though I've done many good things for other people, bad things happen to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Right now I\u2019m imparting helpful wisdom, but will everyone here like it? Some people will really like it, and others will not. Those people who didn't like my talk could say to my face, \u201cI\u2019m upset, why did you say those things?\u201d Or they could complain to their friends on the drive back home, \u201cHis talk was boring. It wasn't anything special.\u201d (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which one is better? Is it better for people to criticize me to my face? Or is it better that people criticize me only among themselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's worse to criticize you to your face. It's not our culture to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: That's right. That person doesn't criticize me to my face out of consideration for me. Therefore, by talking about me behind my back, he is being very considerate. That's why there is no reason to be upset by it. (audience laughter). So, instead of thinking how can my friend be talking behind my back, think positively that because that person is my friend, he is talking behind my back and not to my face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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After Pomnyun Sunim was introduced, as he and the interpreter Jason took the stage, the audience welcomed them in a thunderous applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: \u201cHello, I'm Pomnyun and next to me is Jason Lim who will interpret the talk. Let\u2019s welcome him with a round of applause. I'd like to thank everyone who made this talk possible today, especially Sehee Kim and her family. We're here to converse freely on any topic. It's not about religion, philosophy or beliefs but to talk about the problems in your lives. I would like to talk about any worries you may have or anything you may be curious about. Let's begin.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Bad things happen to good people. I can\u2019t seem to get past the bad things that others have done to me. How do I let these actions go and find peace?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Good intentions and good outcomes don\u2019t always have a direct correlation. Good deeds done with good intentions does not necessarily guarantee good outcomes. If one believes that there is a direct correlation between the two, he will be greatly disappointed because it\u2019s not true. Then one might ask, \u201cDoes it mean that we don\u2019t need to do good deeds?\u201d No, it's better to do good deeds than not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are two reasons we have to do good deeds. First, when we do good deeds, there is a higher probability that the results will be better than when we do bad deeds. That\u2019s why we choose the option that is more likely to produce good results. Second, when we do good deeds, we feel good. Therefore, it's better to do good deeds regardless of the outcome. Thinking that when we do good deeds the results will also be good is an incorrect and mechanical way of thinking, leading to the question why bad things happen to us when we have done good deeds. Nice people usually suffer because of this question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let's say I complimented someone, but the person will not necessarily compliment me in return and might even criticize me. Is the person then at fault? No, it's a natural phenomenon. The chances of a person complimenting me is a little higher when I compliment that person as opposed to criticizing him. That's why it's more advantageous for me to compliment the person. Listening to you, you seem to be wondering, \u201cWhy did that person criticize me when I have complimented him.\u201d But it's a natural phenomenon. I complimented that person because I wanted to, and he criticized me because he wanted to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I\u2019ve been hurt many times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You feel hurt because you\u2019re thinking how can this person criticize me when I've complimented him. If you think, \u201cHe could criticize me\u201d you will not be hurt. Do you dislike being criticized?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: No, it's fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Then what bothers you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: When I realize that people are dishonest, and they pretend to be my friends but are not actually my friends, I get hurt. Even though I've done many good things for other people, bad things happen to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Right now I\u2019m imparting helpful wisdom, but will everyone here like it? Some people will really like it, and others will not. Those people who didn't like my talk could say to my face, \u201cI\u2019m upset, why did you say those things?\u201d Or they could complain to their friends on the drive back home, \u201cHis talk was boring. It wasn't anything special.\u201d (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which one is better? Is it better for people to criticize me to my face? Or is it better that people criticize me only among themselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's worse to criticize you to your face. It's not our culture to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: That's right. That person doesn't criticize me to my face out of consideration for me. Therefore, by talking about me behind my back, he is being very considerate. That's why there is no reason to be upset by it. (audience laughter). So, instead of thinking how can my friend be talking behind my back, think positively that because that person is my friend, he is talking behind my back and not to my face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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As the time for the event approached closer, people started to file in one or two at a time. Seeing this, the volunteers finished preparing for the event with excitement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After Pomnyun Sunim was introduced, as he and the interpreter Jason took the stage, the audience welcomed them in a thunderous applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: \u201cHello, I'm Pomnyun and next to me is Jason Lim who will interpret the talk. Let\u2019s welcome him with a round of applause. I'd like to thank everyone who made this talk possible today, especially Sehee Kim and her family. We're here to converse freely on any topic. It's not about religion, philosophy or beliefs but to talk about the problems in your lives. I would like to talk about any worries you may have or anything you may be curious about. Let's begin.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Bad things happen to good people. I can\u2019t seem to get past the bad things that others have done to me. How do I let these actions go and find peace?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Good intentions and good outcomes don\u2019t always have a direct correlation. Good deeds done with good intentions does not necessarily guarantee good outcomes. If one believes that there is a direct correlation between the two, he will be greatly disappointed because it\u2019s not true. Then one might ask, \u201cDoes it mean that we don\u2019t need to do good deeds?\u201d No, it's better to do good deeds than not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are two reasons we have to do good deeds. First, when we do good deeds, there is a higher probability that the results will be better than when we do bad deeds. That\u2019s why we choose the option that is more likely to produce good results. Second, when we do good deeds, we feel good. Therefore, it's better to do good deeds regardless of the outcome. Thinking that when we do good deeds the results will also be good is an incorrect and mechanical way of thinking, leading to the question why bad things happen to us when we have done good deeds. Nice people usually suffer because of this question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let's say I complimented someone, but the person will not necessarily compliment me in return and might even criticize me. Is the person then at fault? No, it's a natural phenomenon. The chances of a person complimenting me is a little higher when I compliment that person as opposed to criticizing him. That's why it's more advantageous for me to compliment the person. Listening to you, you seem to be wondering, \u201cWhy did that person criticize me when I have complimented him.\u201d But it's a natural phenomenon. I complimented that person because I wanted to, and he criticized me because he wanted to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I\u2019ve been hurt many times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You feel hurt because you\u2019re thinking how can this person criticize me when I've complimented him. If you think, \u201cHe could criticize me\u201d you will not be hurt. Do you dislike being criticized?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: No, it's fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Then what bothers you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: When I realize that people are dishonest, and they pretend to be my friends but are not actually my friends, I get hurt. Even though I've done many good things for other people, bad things happen to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Right now I\u2019m imparting helpful wisdom, but will everyone here like it? Some people will really like it, and others will not. Those people who didn't like my talk could say to my face, \u201cI\u2019m upset, why did you say those things?\u201d Or they could complain to their friends on the drive back home, \u201cHis talk was boring. It wasn't anything special.\u201d (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which one is better? Is it better for people to criticize me to my face? Or is it better that people criticize me only among themselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's worse to criticize you to your face. It's not our culture to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: That's right. That person doesn't criticize me to my face out of consideration for me. Therefore, by talking about me behind my back, he is being very considerate. That's why there is no reason to be upset by it. (audience laughter). So, instead of thinking how can my friend be talking behind my back, think positively that because that person is my friend, he is talking behind my back and not to my face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18485,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-30 00:45:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-30 05:45:00","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: A child may think, \u201cI will be happy when I\u2019m all grown up.\u201d Before college, a student may think, \u201cI will be happy when get into a college.\u201d Later, the college student waits for tomorrow thinking, \u201cI will be happy when I graduate from college, \u2026 when I get married, \u2026 when I have a child.\u201d We endure the difficulties of today hoping that we will be happy sometime in the future. As we get older, however, we question whether it is alright to live this way. One person asked me, \u201cWhat is a successful and good life?\u201d In his field of work, this person was perceived as successful, but he was unsure whether his life was indeed successful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We first need to ask the question, \u201cWhat is \u201csuccess\u201d? Success can be broadly defined as achieving one\u2019s goal. Many believe that making a lot of money is success. Also, they think, gaining high status, power, or fame is success. However, everything is relative. A person with one hundred thousand dollars is considered to be rich among those who only have ten thousand dollars. However, the same person is considered to be poor when he is among millionaires. Being \u201crich\u201d or \u201cpoor\u201d is relative and is dependent on the object of comparison. The same rule applies to a person\u2019s status. In the military, a sergeant has a higher rank when compared to a private, but he has a lower rank when compared to a lieutenant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These kinds of secular successes cannot last forever. Because everyone wants to succeed, even those who have failed will keep on trying to achieve success, so it looks like people are playing a seesaw game. Going up and down, they alternate between success and failure. Can such unsustainable success be called true success?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s talk about money. People think that they will be happy when they save the amount of money they aim for. Those without money think that people with money don\u2019t have any worries. Is this true? On the contrary, the rich may have more to worry about than the poor. For example, they worry about protecting their wealth and want to increase it since they always feel lacking in money in comparison with those richer than they are. There is a saying that goes, \u201cA person with 99 rice paddies demands that a person with one rice paddy hand over the land.\u201d It means that a rich person, instead of being satisfied with what he has will want to keep on accumulating more wealth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of success in society, there is sometimes a discrepancy between the evaluation of others and that of oneself. For instance, a person who may be regarded as successful by others, may actually feel like a failure. Perhaps that is why there seem to be more elderly people who are regretful and feel they wasted their lives than those who feel that their lives were rewarding and that they would do the same work again if they were reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What then is a truly successful or good life? When you feel satisfied with your life regardless of societal views of success, your life can be considered to be successful. Generally, people who have earned a lot of money and live in a big apartment in the city are viewed as successful. However, people who are running a farm in the countryside are also leading successful lives when they feel content and think, \u201cI am happy to be able to breathe fresh air, drink clean water, eat organic produce, and enjoy freedom in my work.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are leading a good life if you are satisfied with your life today and are not postponing happiness until tomorrow. You can be happy when you realize, \u201cYou can\u2019t eat five or six meals a day nor wear dozens of clothes or drive several cars simultaneously. Living modestly and being free from worries is the best.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s not really important what type of work you do. If there is something you want to do, you can just do it. It may be rewarding to research new farming techniques, to run a small shop, or to work for the international community.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Doing what you want to do is enjoyable even though it may be demanding and difficult. Climbing a mountain for military exercise is just as physically taxing as climbing the same mountain for leisure. But climbing for military exercise is agonizing while climbing for leisure is enjoyable. At times, I find it exhausting to travel around the country and around the world to give talks, but I am happy because spreading the teachings of Buddha gives me great satisfaction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I was late for a dharma talk, so I took a cab. I noticed the cab driver was driving very aggressively. Curious as to why the man was so angry and temperamental, I asked the driver, \u201cAre you having a very bad day?\u201d The driver let out a big sigh and said, \u201cMy wife left me and my seven-year-old son.\u201d Then, I asked him, \u201cHow much do you make an hour?\u201d He responded, \u201cAbout eight dollars per hour.\u201d I told him that I would give him forty dollars for five hours of his time.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I got out of the cab in front of the temple where I was giving the dharma talk, I gave the cab driver forty dollars and told him to park the cab and come inside to listen to my dharma talk. Driving so aggressively, the driver could have caused a horrific accident, injuring himself and others. Also, his constant anger would have been a very bad influence on his son. I wanted to give him an opportunity to calm down and reflect on his situation. Think about the benefits of his coming to terms with his situation so that he could be happy despite being without his wife? The possibility of his wife coming back may increase while the chances of his getting into a car accident would decrease, thereby saving lives of others as well as his own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I had just invited him to the dharma talk, he would have refused. But since I paid him, he had no choice but to attend my dharma talk. Come to think of it, I must say that I am happy that so many people come to listen to my dharma talks even though I don\u2019t pay them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Failing to reach your goal should not necessarily lead to unhappiness. If you do your best and don\u2019t obsess about the result, the process itself will make you happy. However, when you are not centered and rely on the evaluation of others to define success, your life will seem futile when you fail to \u201csucceed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, the majority of people tend to be pretentious and waste their lives pursuing futile desires. Also, they torture themselves by constantly comparing themselves to others. Some lead apathetic lives believing that they are \u201cincompetent\u201d and others live in misery resenting others. They keep blaming others instead of looking inward and finding contentment. Since they laugh and cry according to the changing circumstances and conditions in their surroundings, they inevitably continue to lead unstable lives. Therefore, you must keep in mind that achieving success as dictated by society and satisfying your desires will not necessarily make you happy. On the contrary, the more you let go of your desires and lower your expectations, the happier and more satisfied you will be.<\/p>\n","post_title":"What Is A Successful Life?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"what-is-a-successful-life","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-28 12:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-28 17:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18485","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18472,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-04-23 05:06:38","post_date_gmt":"2024-04-23 10:06:38","post_content":"\n

P<\/strong>: The young are flexible and resilient. They have vitality, which enables them to recover quickly from sickness or injury. However, when you get old, even one bout of illness will age you significantly. This is why the old should not work as strenuously as they did when they were young. Overworking is a sign of greed since you are forcing yourself to work beyond a reasonable limit. When you get old, you should only work up to the point that your body is not strained.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Farmers who have overworked since they were young tend to keep overworking even in old age. When the sun sets while they are planting rice seedlings in the rice fields, they should stop and resume working the next day. However, they continue working in the darkness until all the seedlings are planted and end up suffering from aches and pains all night. Therefore, people should not be greedy about working and should make a habit of ending work when the work day is over and resuming the next day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While working moderately is beneficial to our health, working excessively and strenuously will likely shorten our lives. Extreme athletes tend to have a shorter life expectancy than the average person because they place enormous strain on their bodies for a certain period in their lives. To take cars as an example, we measure the lifespan of cars by their mileage, not by the years owned. Moreover, if we speed or drive them excessively during a short time period, the lifespan is significantly reduced. Therefore, if we drive moderately without exceeding the speed of 55 to 65 miles per hour, a car will last for good two to three decades.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which job do you think gives people the longest and healthiest lives in the world? Most people believe it\u2019s farming, but that\u2019s not actually true. Farmers tend to overwork, so it is very rare for them to live past the age of one hundred. Those who are slightly lazy don\u2019t overly exert themselves, so they may enjoy longevity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In terms of occupation, shepherds tend to live the longest. They walk a great deal every day but do not engage in arduous activities that can be taxing on the body. Besides, grazing pastures tend to be located roughly between 1,640ft and 3,300ft above the sea level, and the air quality is purest at approximately 2,300ft. The combination of good air and moderate exercise enable the shepherds to be healthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moderate exercise is good for your health. Also, rather than exercising in a gym, it is best to engage in modest labor in your everyday life such as washing the dishes, cleaning the house, and farming if you live in the countryside. Spending excessive time in bed because you don\u2019t feel well can in fact also be detrimental to your health. Even though it may be hard, it is best to keep moving to some extent. You need to keep walking, though your legs may hurt, so that your leg muscles don\u2019t become stiff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lack of exercise and overexertion are both harmful to your health. Even machines tend to break down easily either when left unused for a long period of time or used excessively. Modest usage will make them last the longest. Houses will be damaged from both overuse and underuse, so they should be used moderately to maintain them in good shape and prolong their lifespan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are instances in which people who have not had a sick day in their lives die suddenly. It usually happens because these people were overly confident about their health and taxed their bodies beyond a certain limit. Especially, when people reach beyond the age of sixty, they need to be careful about their health, but those who have never been ill are not prepared slowdown in their old age. As a result, they overexert themselves without taking into account their physical condition and may experience an incident like a heart attack.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a saying that goes, \u201cHe who suffers from a chronic illness lives to be 80.\u201d It means that people with poor health usually take good care of their bodies and end up living longer than healthy people. Of course living longer is not necessarily a good thing. However, as people get older, their bodies weaken, so they need to be wise about adjusting their activity level to that appropriate for their age.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Live Like A Shepherd, Not A Farmer","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"live-like-a-shepherd-not-a-farmer","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-04-19 05:13:52","post_modified_gmt":"2024-04-19 10:13:52","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18472","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18125,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-12 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-12 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

P:<\/strong> When the Buddha was close to death, his disciples came to him and asked,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHow would you like us to conduct your funeral?\u201d The Buddha answered, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to worry about my funeral because the lay Buddhists will take care of it.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lay Buddhists are those who take refuge in the Three Jewels and practice the Five Precepts without becoming monks or nuns. When the Buddha said they will take care of it, he meant that his funeral would be conducted based on customs of the lay people in India. So, after the Buddha died, the Lay Buddhists cremated the Buddha\u2019s body according to the Indian tradition. If he had lived in Korea, he would have been buried in the ground as is the custom in Korea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Dharma is a teaching about truth, so it does not contain cultural aspects. However, since Buddhism originated from India, its traditions, customs, and culture were integrated into the Buddhist culture. Strictly speaking, neither cremation nor the 49-day posthumous ceremony is a fundamental tradition of Buddhism. They are in fact part of the of Indian cultural tradition.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is said that the deceased person has 49 days to be saved and is classified into one of nine levels based on his deeds during his life. \u201cAnyone can be reborn in paradise after he dies if he sincerely hopes for it. However, not everyone can be reborn in paradise right away since people fall into one of the nine categories based on their deeds.\u201d Specifically, people are divided into three categories of high, middle and low, and those in each of the three categories are again divided into high, middle and low, so there are a total of nine categories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is believed that people in the very first category are reborn in paradise immediately after their death. It is comparable to leaving a room and entering another room. Those in the second category are reborn within 12 hours. It takes one day for those in the third category, three days for those in the fourth, a week for those in the fifth, 21 days for those in the sixth, and finally, it takes 49 days for those in the seventh category to be reborn in paradise. This is reason that people hold the 49-day posthumous ceremony. This ritual provides an opportunity for people to do good deeds on behalf of their deceased family members and help them be reborn in paradise within 49 days.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to the people in the eighth and ninth categories? Ultimately, people in all nine categories will all be reborn in paradise. However, those in the eighth and ninth categories have to spend some time in hell before that. Every year, Buddhists perform the Buddhist All Soul\u2019s Day ceremony on July 15th of the lunar calendar to save the souls of those in the two categories from hell. There is no point in debating whether this is true or not because it is a religious belief, so people are free to choose whether to believe it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Funeral customs vary greatly from religion to religion and country to country. In India, the dead are cremated, and in Tibet, they are left to be eaten by birds. The corpse is cut up and placed on big rocks high in the mountain, so that it is eaten by falcons and eagles. In desert regions, the dead are \u201cburied in the wind.\u201d That is, they are nailed on a wooden board and exposed to the elements for one year until only the bones remain after which the funeral ceremony is performed. In regions with many islands, the dead are dropped into the sea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each of these funeral rituals has its unique meaning and significance. Tibetans feed the dead to birds because they believe that the spirit of the dead will fly to heaven with the birds. Some cultures bury the dead in the ground because of the belief that the spiritual world exists underground. Meanwhile, Indians believe in reincarnation, so they cremate the corpse to help the spirits to quickly sever their attachment to their worldly bodies so that they can be reborn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Regardless of the funeral ritual that is performed, once a person dies, it\u2019s the end. By saying \u201cthe end\u201d I am not implying that there is no heaven or an afterlife; I am simply saying the person who draws his last breath will no longer exist in this world. From a Christian viewpoint, the spirits go to heaven, and from a Buddhist perspective, the spirits are reborn, so there is nothing we can do for them. Therefore, the best farewell for those who pass away is to let them go from our hearts.<\/p>\n","post_title":"The Best Farewell For The Deceased","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"the-best-farewell-for-the-deceased-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:50:59","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:50:59","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18125","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18122,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-03-05 07:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2024-03-05 12:00:00","post_content":"\n

-An extract from Venerable Pomnyun's book, Life Lessons<\/em>-<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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P:<\/strong> We all go through the four phases of life: birth, aging, sickness, and death in our lives, and we often do things we end up regretting because we fail to be thankful for our blessings. A mother related to me about how she has been continually confronted with unfortunate incidents since the loss of her son.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q:<\/strong> \u201cStarting 15 days prior to Buddha's birthday I prayed early in the morning every day for 73 days for my son who had been preparing for the SAT. Despite my devoted prayers, unthinkable tragedies have happened to me. I have lost my smart and kind eldest son, and right after his death, my younger son broke his leg. Then, I was hit by a car while waiting at a traffic light but was declared to be the offender. It\u2019s devastating enough that I have lost my son. I don't understand why these unfortunate things are happening to me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> This mother prayed for her son to study hard and get accepted into a good college. But, if she had known that he was going to die, she would have instead prayed for his safety and health. This is to say she didn\u2019t realize how grateful she should be by the fact that her son was alive because she was so concerned about her son getting accepted into a good college. However, when her son died, she realized that being a good student and going to a good college was not important at all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How should a mother pray if she truly loves her child? She should pray, \u201cI am thankful that my child is alive, I don\u2019t want anything else as long as my child is safe.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, what has already happened is irreversible. The mother described her son as a good person, so she should believe that he went to heaven. The mother should think, \u201cMy son went to heaven at such a young age because he was such a good person.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If the mother grieves too much for her son and doesn\u2019t let go of her attachment to him, her son\u2019s spirit may not be able to move on to the other world. The mother should pray for her son to go to heaven quickly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, the mother should realize how fortunate it is that her younger son only fractured his leg. Her older son is dead, but thankfully, her younger son only fractured his leg and is still alive. She should view the situation in a positive way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If she can be calm about her younger son\u2019s injury, she can be more composed about being held responsible for a car accident she did not cause. Compared to losing her son, having some dents on her car is definitely not a big deal. Having experienced an unthinkable tragedy, she can shrug off the car accident as a trivial incident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is actually not such a big deal if she thinks, \u201cI could have died or fractured my leg in the car accident, but I was very lucky to only have my car rear-ended. All I had to deal with were a few dents on my car.\u201d If she can view the situation this way, the accident is not such a big deal. That is why I say it\u2019s not a problem. It is possible that the mother and her younger son could also have died like her oldest son, but they didn\u2019t. The younger son just broke his leg, and the mother was in a car accident but was not hurt. Since things could have been much worse, the mother should actually be thankful and live her life to the fullest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone walks by and trips her, she should be able to say calmly, \u201cI even made it through the loss of my son. There is nothing that I can\u2019t overcome.\u201d She has nothing to fear in life. Since she lived through the death of her son, she\u2019ll be able to live on even if she loses all her money and even if her house burns down. This is a big realization she could obtain through the death of her son, and it is actually a big gift her son left behind. If the mother continues to grieve deeply about the death of her son, it means that he has left suffering for his mother. However, if she gains wisdom from this experience, it means that her son has left behind a precious gift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anytime she is confronted with difficulties in her life, she should try to think this way: \u201cI\u2019ve received a big gift from my son. In the past, I would have been miserable and frantic if something like this had happened to me. However, after losing my son, I have realized that a difficulty like this isn\u2019t such a big deal.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Things that happen to us are neither good nor bad. They just happen. If we perceive them positively, they become good things, and if we perceive them negatively, they become bad things. We are the ones who decide whether what we experience is good or bad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, when we fail in something, that is neither good nor bad. Whether we fail in a relationship or in business, if we are traumatized by it, we will be afraid to enter into a relationship or begin a business in the future. The fear of failing again will be a handicap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was once tortured in the past. If I had taken it negatively, it would have become the worst trauma in my life, and I would have had deep animosity towards the people who tortured me. However, because I was able to take it as an experience, it became an opportunity for me to become enlightened. Most people are hurt by the bad experiences they have in their lives. Because they hold on to their hurt feelings, they cannot be free of suffering. It is important to accept any experiences we have had as life lessons that will enhance our lives. People who can do this will become stronger the more difficulties they experience and will become more capable of overcoming adversity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The loss of a child can be indescribably painful to parents. However, if they are able to be enlightened about life through this tragic experience, they will be able to live their lives more boldly than any other person. They may realize, \u201cWhat could be more devastating than losing our child? Since we have lived through it, there won\u2019t be an adversity that we can\u2019t overcome.\u201d Whatever disasters occur in the world, they will be able to deal with them calmly even if others are devastated by them.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Big Gift Her Son Left Behind","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"giving-alms-without-expectation-of-reward-2","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-03-02 14:46:15","post_modified_gmt":"2024-03-02 19:46:15","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18122","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":14515,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2023-01-31 01:00:00","post_date_gmt":"2023-01-31 06:00:00","post_content":"\n


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Q: I would like to hear your work in environment and how do you think that Buddhist teaching is really valuable for the issues of environment and global warming?<\/strong><\/gwmw><\/h1>\n\n\n\n

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P: <\/strong>There are two different views on how we see the existence of this world. On the one hand, there's a world view that sees different existence as separate existence. In that world view, death of one existence has nothing to do with death or the life of another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, there is a perspective that sees all existence in the world as a kind of continuous organism in which everything is connected. For example, there are five fingers here. If we see the fingers with a narrow scope, all five fingers are separate existence. However, if you open your eyes wider, they are different yet connected to the same hand. So the Buddhist world view that everything is connected and related to each other in such way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When Buddha attained enlightenment, he recognized the true nature of existence as being continuous and interconnected. Not only was I connected with you, I am also connected with other life forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I breathe in, I am connected with air. Through lights I am connected with the cosmos itself. So if you cut off that relationship it means death. So those relationships have to be in balance with each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So in that sense when men develop nature to your advantage, it has to be within, what can be sustained by nature, otherwise you destroy nature and ultimately yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So from a very short term perspective, you may gain advantage by taking advantage of the nature, but in the long term, the damage you have done will come back to you and cause damage to you in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So that\u2019s why the first rule of the Buddhist is to respect living beings. Do not destroy or hurt living things. So our environmental issues can only be resolved once we get into the mind frame that everything is interconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a famous saying by the Buddha. This exists because that exists. If this doesn\u2019t exist, that doesn\u2019t exist. This is formed because that is formed. If this disappears, that disappears.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That is dependant origination of our life. There is no one singular self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you manage to focus then your breathe becomes really smooth, you can even feel the difference of the temperature of the air. Then you attain a state of really clear awareness of everything that goes around you. From this state or self-peace, can your engagement with peace activism be constructive? But if you are angry and engage in peace activism, you tend to fight in the name of peace.<\/p>\n","post_title":"A Buddhist Perspective On Environmental Crisis","post_excerpt":"Sunim gave a Dharma Q&A session at Princeton on Oct. 1, 2014","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"a-buddhist-perspective-on-environmental-crisis","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2023-06-11 11:00:08","post_modified_gmt":"2023-06-11 16:00:08","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=14515","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":3694,"post_author":"2","post_date":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_date_gmt":"2021-03-29 15:01:56","post_content":"\n

Q: I developed an issue of procrastination during graduate school. The problem is getting worse. If I am facing a lot of stress, for example, if I have several assignments I need to submit on a certain day, I only start doing them on the very last day before the due date. I have graduated, and I am going to start working. My work is in research, so I am very worried that I am going to continue the bad habit of procrastination in my work. Do you have any suggestions?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong>\u00a0Actually, you maintain the habit because you really don\u2019t want to get rid of it. For example, when you try to wake up in the morning\u2026 Let\u2019s say you usually wake up at 6 am. You decide to wake up at 5 am in order to pray, but you fail to wake up at 5am. The next day, you can\u2019t wake up at 5am either. So, this is what we tell ourselves. \u201cI want to get up at five in the morning, but my body isn\u2019t cooperating.\u201d But that\u2019s not true. You go to sleep, and the alarm rings at 5am. You think to yourself, \u201cI need to wake up, I need to wake up, I need to wakeup\u2026.\u201d Let\u2019s say you say that ten times to yourself. What can you discover? Does it mean that you want to get up or that you don\u2019t want to get up? It means that you don\u2019t want to get up. That\u2019s why you are not getting up. If you analyse it, your thought or your conscious knows you need to get up, but your heart or your subconscious \u2013 because it has become used to waking up at 6 am \u2013 refuses to wake up. That\u2019s why there is conflict between your conscious and your subconscious. Who wins this battle? Your subconscious usually wins. So, your subconscious is much more powerful than your conscious. There\u2019s an adage in Korea, \u201cWhen you resolve to do something, the resolution only lasts three days.\u201d When you decide to form a new habit or start a new activity, you can rarely continue doing it for more than three days. That\u2019s why you have to change your subconscious. Changing a habit is not a matter of choice or decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P:<\/strong> You have to admit as a first step that when you are not doing something, it means that you don\u2019t want to do it. Let\u2019s go back to the moment you wanted to get up. You should just get up at 5 am. Then, there\u2019s no need for that tension of wanting to get up but not being able to. You make the decision to want to get up only when you don\u2019t want to get up. All thoughts are distractions. To stop being distracted, when the alarm goes off, just get up right away, instead of thinking that you need to get up. instead of deciding not to procrastinate anymore, just do it. Instead of thinking about going, just get there. Instead of thinking about giving something, just give it. Your action must come before your words. Only then will you be able to change your karma. However, it is true that it is extremely hard to change your karma. When you don\u2019t change your habits, it means that you can still bear living with your karma. Although you procrastinated, you were able to graduated, right? When you begin work, you will continue to procrastinate, but you will still be okay. You can just live the way you are, and don\u2019t worry too much about your procrastination. Of course, there are some consequences for procrastinating. If you don\u2019t want those consequences, you have to change. Instead of thinking of doing something, just do it. Then, you will change. However, this is extremely hard, so I am not sure whether you will be able to change.<\/p>\n","post_title":"How Can I Break My Procrastination Habit?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"how-can-i-break-my-procrastination-habit","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-01-16 15:40:28","post_modified_gmt":"2024-01-16 20:40:28","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/demo2021\/?p=3694","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"}],"next":false,"prev":true,"total_page":2},"paged":1,"column_class":"jeg_col_2o3","class":"jnews_block_37"};

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The anticipation of those of us preparing the talk grew as the number of people pre-registered for the lecture went over 100, of which 30 wanted to ask questions. In 2014, when Pomnyun Sunim gave a talk in Minneapolis during his 100-lecture world tour, it was in Korean for an audience of Korean expatriates. This is the first English-interpreted talk in Minneapolis. The volunteers arranged 130 chairs in the lecture hall and waited for people to arrive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As the time for the event approached closer, people started to file in one or two at a time. Seeing this, the volunteers finished preparing for the event with excitement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After Pomnyun Sunim was introduced, as he and the interpreter Jason took the stage, the audience welcomed them in a thunderous applause.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: \u201cHello, I'm Pomnyun and next to me is Jason Lim who will interpret the talk. Let\u2019s welcome him with a round of applause. I'd like to thank everyone who made this talk possible today, especially Sehee Kim and her family. We're here to converse freely on any topic. It's not about religion, philosophy or beliefs but to talk about the problems in your lives. I would like to talk about any worries you may have or anything you may be curious about. Let's begin.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Bad things happen to good people. I can\u2019t seem to get past the bad things that others have done to me. How do I let these actions go and find peace?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Good intentions and good outcomes don\u2019t always have a direct correlation. Good deeds done with good intentions does not necessarily guarantee good outcomes. If one believes that there is a direct correlation between the two, he will be greatly disappointed because it\u2019s not true. Then one might ask, \u201cDoes it mean that we don\u2019t need to do good deeds?\u201d No, it's better to do good deeds than not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are two reasons we have to do good deeds. First, when we do good deeds, there is a higher probability that the results will be better than when we do bad deeds. That\u2019s why we choose the option that is more likely to produce good results. Second, when we do good deeds, we feel good. Therefore, it's better to do good deeds regardless of the outcome. Thinking that when we do good deeds the results will also be good is an incorrect and mechanical way of thinking, leading to the question why bad things happen to us when we have done good deeds. Nice people usually suffer because of this question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let's say I complimented someone, but the person will not necessarily compliment me in return and might even criticize me. Is the person then at fault? No, it's a natural phenomenon. The chances of a person complimenting me is a little higher when I compliment that person as opposed to criticizing him. That's why it's more advantageous for me to compliment the person. Listening to you, you seem to be wondering, \u201cWhy did that person criticize me when I have complimented him.\u201d But it's a natural phenomenon. I complimented that person because I wanted to, and he criticized me because he wanted to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I\u2019ve been hurt many times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You feel hurt because you\u2019re thinking how can this person criticize me when I've complimented him. If you think, \u201cHe could criticize me\u201d you will not be hurt. Do you dislike being criticized?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: No, it's fine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Then what bothers you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: When I realize that people are dishonest, and they pretend to be my friends but are not actually my friends, I get hurt. Even though I've done many good things for other people, bad things happen to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: Right now I\u2019m imparting helpful wisdom, but will everyone here like it? Some people will really like it, and others will not. Those people who didn't like my talk could say to my face, \u201cI\u2019m upset, why did you say those things?\u201d Or they could complain to their friends on the drive back home, \u201cHis talk was boring. It wasn't anything special.\u201d (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Which one is better? Is it better for people to criticize me to my face? Or is it better that people criticize me only among themselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's worse to criticize you to your face. It's not our culture to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: That's right. That person doesn't criticize me to my face out of consideration for me. Therefore, by talking about me behind my back, he is being very considerate. That's why there is no reason to be upset by it. (audience laughter). So, instead of thinking how can my friend be talking behind my back, think positively that because that person is my friend, he is talking behind my back and not to my face.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It would be better to think that way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: It is not just better to think that way. Actually, it is the truth. That\u2019s why more people criticize others behind their backs rather than to their faces than vice versa. It\u2019s out of consideration for the people whom they criticize. Of course, it would be better if they didn\u2019t criticize at all (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: Why don't people just come and talk to me when they have issues with me?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: When people have issues with someone, it\u2019s uncomfortable for them to talk about it directly to that person about it. How about you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: It's not uncomfortable for me. (audience laughter)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: You may not feel uncomfortable doing it, but most people find it a little difficult. That's why they talk to a third party, instead. If we look at it from the perspective of human psychology, it's natural. There's an old saying in Korea. When the king is not present, people even curse the king. Back then, people weren\u2019t allowed to curse the king. You're not a king, are you? (audience laughter). Not wanting to be criticized behind your back means that you are suffering from a delusion of grandeur. You think that you're more important than a king.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I prefer that people come and talk to me directly. I\u2019m usually able to talk to other people about how I feel and ask if we could talk. That way people can see that I\u2019m straightforward and honest.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

P<\/strong>: I agree that's a good way to go, but the fact is that not everybody can do that. That's the reality. People are different, and that person isn't like you. Right now what you're insisting is that other people be like you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Q<\/strong>: I didn't realize I was doing that. Thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the very first question, the audience concentrated on the conversation between Pomnyun Sunim and the questioner. The audience responded enthusiastically, listening with seriousness but sometimes bursting out with laughter. One woman said that because of a mistake she made in the past, it was impossible to have a conversation with her mother and asked what she could do. After the talk, she came over and thanked Pomnyun Sunim in Korean. Other people commented that this question and Pomnyun Sunim's answer were particularly good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman said that she's a nice person but doesn't get the respect. When the Sunim responded that \u201cyou\u2019re not nice,\u201d the eyes of both the questioner and the audience widened in shock. Because this kind of conversation is not familiar to them, it was bewildering to many people, but as Pomnyun Sunim continued the Q&A with that person and explained his answer in more detail, not only the questioner but the general audience became more immersed in the teachings, and their faces lit up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A girl in the 6th grade asked Sunim how she could overcome her lack of confidence and belief in herself. In response, he picked up a water bottle, a tape recorder, and a watch. He said the tape recorder is neither big nor small, it is merely what it is. He continued that even an elementary student can attain enlightenment. He explained that in Zen Buddhism, the concept can be explained as, \u201cIt is what it is.\u201d In Mahayana Buddhism, it is called emptiness. In fundamental Buddhism, it\u2019s described as non-self. As he explained, the audience listened intently to his conversation with the 6th grader.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

During the conversation based on the last question of the English interpretation talk in Minneapolis, Pomnyun Sunim said \u201cThose who want to follow the teachings of the Buddha, should engage in the following activities. First, we have to make ourselves free and happy in order to improve the world. We need to protect the environment. Also, we must work to eradicate poverty for the people suffering from extreme poverty in the world, and we have to work to end wars and establish peace in the world. There is one more thing. In northern European countries, their natural environment is beautiful, there's no poverty, and the society is peaceful. However, 20-30 years ago, their suicide rate was the highest in the world. That's why I became curious about the reason. In the example of northern Europe, we can see that it\u2019s not enough that society changes for the better. Individual must be able to control their own emotion and to do that people have to engage in practice and continue to make the effort to maintain the right mindset.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we listen to his talk, we felt a renewed sense of pride and gratitude towards Pomnyun Sunim who is ceaselessly traveling around the world to spread the teachings of the Buddha in order to enable people to be happy and create a peaceful world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk was over, many people came over to Pomnyun Sunim to thank him. Many of them wanted to take a picture with him, so he took pictures with them until the library closed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The woman who posed the first question said that through her conversation with Pomnyun Sunim, she felt as if she now has a new set of lenses with which she viewed the world and was thankful. Also, she expressed her wish to take a picture with Pomnyun Sunim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One man who attended the talk shared that listening to the talk made him feel like a college student again and that he had a good time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the talk, Sunim took a group picture with the volunteers who helped prepare for the event.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Bad Things Happen To Good People. I Can\u2019t Seem To Get Past The Bad Things That Others Have Done To Me. How Do I Let These Actions Go And Find Peace?","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"bad-things-happen-to-good-people-i-cant-seem-to-get-past-the-bad-things-that-others-have-done-to-me-how-do-i-let-these-actions-go-and-find-peace","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-06-01 23:14:44","post_modified_gmt":"2024-06-02 04:14:44","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19411","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19343,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-28 14:39:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-28 19:39:54","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> Since we have been given the gift of life, we should make it beautiful. However, we trap ourselves in the perceptions we have created with our thoughts and make ourselves miserable. I encourage people to think positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d According to the teachings of the Buddha, there is no such thing as a good or a bad person, but if people are going to form perceptions, they would be better off having positive ones. Likewise, if they are going to have dreams, it\u2019s better to have a good dream than a nightmare. In sum, if you are positive, you will become happy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have formed any negative perceptions in your mind, you should try to get rid of it. To do so, you need to repent and aspire to form positive perceptions. That is why I advise people to have positive thoughts such as \u201cMy husband is a good person.\u201d or \u201cMy wife is a good person.\u201d People should always have positive thoughts in their everyday lives, but it\u2019s not easy, especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Therefore, we should constantly reflect on the state of our minds, so we can let go of any hatred we are holding on to. In addition, we must become aware of any mistakes we have made unconsciously, repent, and vow never to make the same mistakes again. When we continue to do this, we will one day find ourselves changed and happy. When we consciously monitor our perception based on rationality, our destinies will gradually change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we disapprove of someone, we feel miserable, but when we begin praying and manage to let go of our obsession over that person, we become happy. However, that happy state doesn\u2019t last long because when we notice our husband or our children changing a little in a positive direction, our expectations increase. Rather than focusing on changing ourselves, we wish for other people to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we notice a member of our family unexpectedly begin to change for the better, we appreciate it, but at the same time, we also become greedy and think that if we pray a little harder, they will show even more improvement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if they don\u2019t change any more despite our earnest prayers, we become frustrated. It\u2019s true we feel happy when our husbands or children or friends change for the better, but it\u2019s dangerous to make that our source of happiness. Whether they change or not is their business. In order to become truly free, we should focus on our own practice regardless of their change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The change in people around you is only a very small effect of your practice. Therefore, when you regard their change as a miracle and focus on changing them, you will become miserable. This is not to say that it\u2019s better for those around you not to change. In fact, it\u2019s none of our business whether they change or not. If they change, it\u2019s good for them, and if they don\u2019t, it\u2019s their problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your happiness can be constant when you are not affected by whether others change or not. It\u2019s a good thing that your husband or children change for the better, but you should not think it happened as a result of your prayers. You should just be thankful rather than be happy for any improvements. Instead of thinking, \u201cI am so happy that my husband has changed.\u201d you should think, \u201cI am so thankful that my husband is happy.\u201d If your happiness depends on the behavior of others, you may fall back into misery according to their behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You must focus on your own practice to be strong and calm even when you are struck by a disaster or hit by tragedies, such as the death of a loved one or your child getting into an accident. An accident can be resolved, an illness can be treated, and death can be accepted. Your mind should remain stable at all times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, if you are affected by things that happen around you and constantly think about the reason that you like or don\u2019t like something, you will never be free from suffering. You can become truly free if you continue to cultivate your mind regardless of the things that happen to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can become more free tomorrow than today and become happier tomorrow compared to today. No matter what your family members may have done, they have their own lives. Regardless of how you may have lived until now, you must become happy first and foremost in the midst of everything. As you continue to cultivate your mind, you will wake up one morning and experience a whole different world. Thus, the Buddha once said,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even if a man fighting alone wins a thousand battles, winning against himself is far more glorious. A man who conquers himself is the wisest and is called a hero among heroes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we love and understand others, we feel lighthearted and happy. When we help and take care of others, we are the adults and the owners of our own destinies. It is a way that will make us beautiful, more so than wearing pretty clothes or having high positions in society. Then, we lead lives that are dignified and peaceful, and colored as beautifully as fall foliage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The path of truth leads us to freedom and happiness. The path must be beneficial to us and others in the present and in the future. A path which benefits only us and not others or only others and not us is not sustainable. If we do something that only benefits us and is detrimental to others, we will have to deal with the consequences later in life. If we sacrifice ourselves to benefit others, we won\u2019t be able to keep doing it for a long time. Consequently, in order to have sustainable happiness, we must choose a path that is beneficial to everyone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you make a choice that is good for now but may be harmful later, you will regret it. On the other hand, if you decide to do something that is good for the future but bad for you now, you will have a hard time doing it and be miserable. Therefore, you must choose a path that is good for both the present and the future. I hope you fully enjoy a sustainable happiness on the path of truth that is beneficial to you and others in the present and the future.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Happiness Should Begin With Me","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"happiness-should-begin-with-me","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-26 14:46:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-26 19:46:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19343","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":19179,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-21 13:10:21","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-21 18:10:21","post_content":"\n

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P:<\/strong> In the spring, all kinds of beautiful flowers bloom everywhere in the mountains and the fields. Not only are the flowers beautiful, but the newly budding leaves are also very beautiful. Spring sprouts flourish over the summer, turn into warm colors in the autumn, and eventually wither and fall off the branches. Looking at this natural process, many people say, \"Falling autumn leaves look so forlorn.\" However, are the falling leaves really forlorn? No, they are not. Those who are looking at the falling leaves are the ones who are feeling sad. Looking at the withered leaves, people feel sad about getting old, thinking to themselves, \"My radiant youth is withering away like those leaves.\" Are only spring flowers and budding sprouts beautiful? Colored foliage is also very beautiful. Just like we take the time to go to see spring flowers in the spring, we also go to see the colorful foliage in the fall. No matter how pretty a flower, people won\u2019t pick up a fallen flower from the ground to keep. However, they will pick up a beautifully colored autumn leaf to keep in between the pages of a book for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In life, we are born, grow up, and grow old. If we grow old like beautifully colored fall foliage, aging won\u2019t be such a bad thing. If we age naturally, the way nature changes, we will already be at peace with ourselves. What should we do in order to age as beautifully as autumn foliage? We must let go of our strong desire to stay young and calmly accept growing old. We should simply adapt to the changes without even the thought, \"I should age gracefully.\" We should view becoming old \u2013 getting sick, hair becoming gray, getting wrinkles, and even our legs aching \u2013 as a natural process. Usually, a person who has accepted his given situation has a very peaceful demeanor. Looking at this person, people may think, \"That person is very bright and confident despite his age.\" Such a person can be regarded as aging beautifully like a dazzling colored autumn leaf. Therefore, growing old is not pathetic or miserable but simply natural.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In order to age like a beautifully colored autumn leaf, one should be cautious of any \"excessiveness.\" There are many undesirable side effects when people give in to excessiveness in their old age. Although it is relatively easy for the young to recover from excessiveness, it is very hard for the elderly to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First of all, the elderly should not overeat. If young people overeat, they can easily recover by taking digestive pills. However, as people get older their digestive abilities weaken so when the elderly overeat, they are likely to get sick. Therefore, no matter how delicious the food may be, they must not overeat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Secondly, the elderly should not overdrink. When young people drink so much that they cannot walk straight, they will usually recover in a day or two. However, when the elderly overdrink, their health will likely deteriorate significantly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thirdly, the elderly should not overwork. When young people overwork, they will recover quickly after getting some rest. However, when the elderly overwork, they usually have difficulty recovering. This is not to say that the elderly shouldn\u2019t do anything. They should stay active to the extent that they don\u2019t overly tax their bodies.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When people grow old, they should not do anything to excess or be greedy as they were in their youth. When young people actively try out different jobs, people will praise them for being brave and motivated. Also, when young people try to do something out of greed, people refer to them as being ambitious. However, if the elderly do the same, people will say they are being greedy in their old age. Moreover, people think well of young people voicing their opinions strongly. The elderly, however, are better off expressing their opinions peacefully and calmly for their own sake and that of the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow old, they should try to organize their affairs and wrap things up one by one rather than starting a new business or project. This doesn't mean that they should give up on life. However, since they are at an age comparable to when trees are bearing fruit and require trimming of small branches, they should wrap things up appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In addition, instead of lamenting over getting old and trying to regain their youth, people should be able to calmly view themselves and accept that they are aging like the leaves that are gradually taking on their fall colors. Then, they will be able to let go of their greed naturally little by little.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Colorful Fall Foliage Is More Beautiful Than Spring Flowers","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"colorful-fall-foliage-is-more-beautiful-than-spring-flowers","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-12 13:18:39","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-12 18:18:39","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=19179","menu_order":0,"post_type":"post","post_mime_type":"","comment_count":"0","filter":"raw"},{"ID":18808,"post_author":"40","post_date":"2024-05-07 11:50:54","post_date_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:54","post_content":"\n

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P<\/strong>: In the past, people aged sixty and up were considered to be senior citizens. Therefore, the retirement age was set at sixty years old. However, the 60-year-olds of today are as healthy as the 50-year-olds of a few decades ago. Since people are now healthier and have a higher life expectancy, it may be necessary to increase the retirement age by about 10 years. However, there is a condition. Since there is already a shortage of jobs, there will be fewer jobs for young people if the retirement age is pushed up, so job sharing is necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, let\u2019s say that someone is 58 years old and has reached the retirement age at his company and his monthly salary is $5,000. If the company were to raise the retirement age but were to pay the same salary, it would have to bear a bigger financial burden and be unable to hire many new employees. Moreover, as employees become older, they acquire wisdom and experience but inevitably lag behind in their pace of work and technological expertise. In this case, it is possible for the company to continue benefiting from the experience and accumulated knowledge of the older employees by keeping them employed but at a lower position and salary. In other words, if the person at retirement age is the head of a department, he could hand over his position to a junior employee and take the role of an advisor or a member of the guidance committee with a lower salary of $3,000. When he reaches 70, he could further reduce his work hours and work only three days per week with a monthly salary of $2,000. This way the company can effectively utilize his skills and experience without too much financial burden.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people grow older, they should let go of their stereotypes about different jobs. A person may work as a security guard after retiring from a position as the head of a department. When our society teaches that all occupations are equally valuable, people may respect an ex-CEO all the more when he retires and works as a security guard at the same company, not look down on him. Likewise, a retired school principal, instead idling his time away, may volunteer in assisting young teachers with class preparations or teach a class once a week. If we can distribute work appropriately, lowering the wages and work hours for certain positions, we can create a system which helps older workers stay employed and make some money without overworking themselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In today\u2019s society, elderly people are treated as if they cannot do anything, but if you look around, there is plenty of work for them to do. In our Jungto practitioners\u2019 community, we see that when young people make kimchi or bean paste, it lacks flavor, but when the older ladies make it, it is delicious. Since the physical labor that goes into making these foods is too taxing for the older practitioners they can divide the work with the younger practitioners and work in harmony as a team. When young people do the heavy lifting and older people offer advice on combining the condiments or salting cabbages, the job can be completed in a very efficient manner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even at a farm, all the produce like lettuce and cabbages seem to flourish in the hands of older people but do not do so well under the care of younger people. Therefore, if the older people plant the seeds and tend to the crop while the younger people undertake the more laborious tasks, they can achieve harmony. When people can work this way, even people in their eighties are able to play a significant role.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you travel to the countryside, you will see old men working like strong young men. When people are young, working in the city looks sophisticated and farming in the countryside seems outdated. However, those who work in the city are forced to retire at a relatively young age while there is no such thing as retirement for farmers even if they reach their seventies. Farmers can keep working as much as they are able to. Therefore, instead of relying on their children in their old age, they are able to send their children the produce they farmed even in their eighties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As people get older, they stay vibrant when they keep active and stay useful. Older people in poor and destitute countries who have to keep working have eyes that are full of life, whereas those of people in the U.S who sit leisurely on park benches or rocking chairs do not have that same vigor and liveliness. Living in physical comfort with nothing much to do is not necessarily a good thing. Rather, it is beneficial for the mind and body to keep active whether it is by weeding in the field or cleaning the house.<\/p>\n","post_title":"Working In Old Age","post_excerpt":"","post_status":"publish","comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","post_password":"","post_name":"working-in-old-age","to_ping":"","pinged":"","post_modified":"2024-05-07 11:50:55","post_modified_gmt":"2024-05-07 16:50:55","post_content_filtered":"","post_parent":0,"guid":"https:\/\/www.jungtosociety.org\/?p=18808","menu_or